The 3 Habits that Helped me Overcome Depression

I went through depression after we had our son. It got worse to the point where I started to have suicidal thoughts. Me and my husband kept on fighting back then. It's as if life is no longer worth living. I was hopeless.

I resigned from my job before we had our son. I thought I'd be content being a stay-at-home mom, but I was wrong. 

I was too ambitious. I wanted to have my own income. Plus, I like the freedom that comes along earning on my own. Other than that, I wanted my time to matter. To have meaning. To have a purpose. To be a contributor to society. To make a difference.

One thought I had back then was, "Is this it? Could I imagine myself living like this for the rest of my life? doing nothing? dependent on my husband? What a total waste of life!"

It went on for many months even after I went back to work. Till... I've come across this thought-provoking content from youtube


As I've gradually applied these 3 habits, my life began to change. I started to like myself and others around me. I'm productive once again. My mind redirected. Hope renewed.

Habit 1: Time with the Lord (spiritual need)

First thing in the morning is for my soul to be happy in the Lord. Now, it's a challenge to be consistent with this but we are getting there. 

I confess The Lord Jesus Christ as my Saviour. And I believe that,

"Man shall not live on bread alone, but on every word that comes from the mouth of God."
- Matthew 4:4

This is how my spiritual need is satisfied.

Habit 2: Exercise (physical need)

I do this Mondays thru Fridays for 20 minutes a day. 

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Seeing my postpartum body is an added reason for my unfounded disposition. I was petite and I allowed myself to gain uncontrollably during my pregnancy.

Exercise may or may not get rid off of the muffin top I gained when I carried my baby, but that's okay. I've wholly embraced the fact that I tolerated this to be a part of me now.

However, my real motivation for exercising is increased energy because I'm dealing with an active toddler every single day. Haha!

Another added benefit to this is the feeling of accomplishment it gave me. Instead of being controlled over by laziness or whatever mental excuse the brain comes up with to do otherwise, I get to utilize my ability to subject my mind and body under my will.

Habit 3: Read or Listen to Audiobooks/Podcasts. (Mental Need)

I've allowed my mind to atrophy for a very long time. We're talking about years or a decade perhaps. I was limited in many areas. I have taken for granted the value of continual learning.

Topics that pique my interest include financial management, leadership, personal growth, and faith. The goal is to broaden my horizons and stretch my current mindset.

And.. my mind exploded! I come to understand myself even more. We are the way we are because of where we came from. [The way we think and process the outside world is due to the programming/training we received from childhood.]

The good news is, nothing is set in stone. We can change. We are moldable. We can reprogram our subconscious mind. There is hope. Change is possible.


Another essential habit worth mentioning is to make goals. I didn't include this on the 3 habits above because I don't do this regularly. But boy, it changed my life exponentially.

"To begin with the end in mind means to start with a clear understanding of your destination. 
It means to know where you’re going so that you better understand where you are now 
and so that the steps you take are always in the right direction."
- 7 Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen Covey

Goals keep me motivated to face life day after day, the good and the bad. I'm no longer tossed on every direction without a clear idea of where I'm going. I know what I want, where I want to go and what I want to accomplish in life.

After all, "A man’s heart plans his way, But the Lord directs his steps." (Proverbs 16:9).

If there is no plan, 
how can God direct our steps?

Now that I'm out of work (yet once again). Yup, I'm currently jobless. Not because I want to. Doing the 3 habits mentioned above helped me to move forward and expect brighter tomorrows.

I can be proactive in my today, doing the best I can with what I have and trust the Lord with the things I can't. Believing that...

when preparation kisses opportunity,  success happens.